No. Not the thriller-film from 2009 starring Gerard Butler, but the Xbox playing-first person shooting-monster slaying-gamer.
Wikipedia (a horrendous and un-reputable? reference) casually describes gamers as those who "spend much of their leisure time playing or learning about games." This is an understatement. We get gaming magazines mailed to our house; we currently own unfathomable amounts of games, an Xbox, a Playstation 3, a Wii, a Super Nintendo, and a Sega Genesis (the later two are completely old school and totally awesome)… and he is trying to convince me we need more.
This is NOT my husband or his friends. My husband is extremely hot. I just thought the picture was really funny.
When dating/engaged/married to a gamer you enter a different world, usually against your will. I have been living in this world for 6 years now, and I have come to understand a few rules, which one must respect:
1. For quality “friend time”, all you need is Internet connection, a console and headset. Living in different time zones isn’t a concern. Boys don’t need to talk about their day or what they plan to do that weekend; they just want to strategize on blowing stuff up.
2. If you want your relationship to stay amicable, tolerate this ‘friend time’ without nagging or complaints. They all need their guy time (in appropriate amounts); don’t be the one to try and take this away.
3. Pretend like you care, and even ask if you can give it try. They get a kick out of you pressing random buttons and screwing up their kill-points. It’s kinda like how they pretend to care about our rants on Edward vs. Jacob. Return the favor.
4. Never, and I mean never, step or walk in front of the TV.
And lastly, 5. Be glad it isn’t hunting or fishing he is obsessed with, which takes him far away for weekends on end. I get to snuggle and fall asleep on his lap AND he gets guy-time: Cha-Ching
In the end, you have to learn to love the things they love. They appreciate the effort and you might find yourself enjoying it a little.